Since Mother’s Day is approaching, I thought I would dedicate a piece to the moms. Yes! Happy Mother’s Day to all of the moms around the world. Thank you for carrying us for 9 months and raising us with love to our adulthood. Without the moms, we would not have a world.
In a Coffee & Whiskey fashion, I would like to pay a special tribute to Asian Mothers. Asian moms are very funny and unique individuals compared to the traditional western counterparts. You Asians know what I’m talking about! Lol
Asian moms… where do I start. First off I understand not all Asian moms are the same, different country, culture, and upbringing can mean a significant difference between moms. When I was a youngster growing up in the states, I started to notice the difference between Asian moms, and American moms. This may not be true for all of us, but for the Asians around me this is how I felt. The way of showing affection was totally very different, the way we got punished was different, the expression of respect is completely different, and the approach to how to raise kids was in a world of its own.
I guess I was more on the fortunate side, as my mother and father weren’t what you’d call “tiger parents.” Actually, the term tiger parents wasn’t around yet in my younger days. One thing that my mother was strict about was consideration for others and following through with my beliefs.
My mom was a very free-spirited person, kind of like the hippies back in the days in her generation. She was open to new things vs traditional ways. Sometimes it was comical to see, because I can totally see her trying to adapt to the American way but contradicting to her Asian side. A lot of times I saw too many Asian parents raising their kids 100% the Asian way, but I don’t think that works or worked in the American society. Most of our parents came from homogenous countries, not raised in a melting pot of many ethnicities like the United States, so naturally we Asians should be raised differently yet keeping our cultural values. I think it was a learning experience for the whole family growing up.
Growing up, I had a tendency to compare my family ways to the typical American families. Television was a very big part of our upbringing; it was the gateway to the American culture. We all saw many television families on these sitcoms growing up. I really believed they were the typical American families. I have to say I was wrong, every western family had their ups and downs, their dramas, their adversities, and funny moments. I just think different ethnicities delt with issues differently. Asians have been in the United States for a very long time, but the Asians round me the parents were 1st generations in this country. This is why I think our moms are the most admirable in a sense, they had to go through their struggles being in a different country, yet they had to keep the family unit intact. This is definitely not an easy feat, especially in that generation.
Modern day younger Asian mothers are very well integrated in the American society. I would say they aren’t any different from any average American mothers, the way they show affection, the way they go about handling issues. At least most of the time… lol!
One thing I can say is Asian mothers are tough as nails, you do not want to piss them off. If you are an Asian growing up in that generation you would know, I noticed most of us got our asses whooped with those Asian feather dusters with that bamboo handle. Damn! Those things had a whipping effect, it was not very pleasant. Americans had the belt, and us Asians had the feather duster. Lol! East vs West which one would you prefer? Discipline was a big thing for Asian moms. You know, I’m actually glad I got my ass kicked when I was younger, now as an adult I’m not a nuisance to society. Thanks mom!
I really don’t want to get into the fashion of Asian moms, but I just thought it was hilarious. Back in the days most Asian moms all dressed the same way, at least that what I felt. Of course, now I understand that Asian moms back in the days were more focused on the survival of the family in a new country, not their fashion sense. New generation Asian moms are very, very fashion savvy. I notice when I drop my son off at school, some of these Asian moms look like K-pop idols. Not that I’m looking… just making observations. The sacrifices made by our moms was evident even in the clothes. They spent everything they had on us growing up. Now I try to give my mom the latest things that I can afford to give, but she really don’t want too much stuff. She always tells me “Why do you spend so much money on stupid things.” I guess more than material gifts, the biggest gift you can give to your mother is the fact you grew up to be a good citizen and you contribute to society. Now that I am a parent, I can totally understand this.
We all love our moms more than our dads lol! Obviously, I’m just kidding! But it’s kind of funny no matter where you go, have you noticed that we get offended more when someone talks sh*t about our moms? When somebody says sh*t about the dads it usually doesn’t get anywhere in terms of arguments, BUT moms… NO WAY nobody I mean NOBODY should talk sh*t about anyone’s mom. I just kind of found it funny, us dads are pretty much second best.
Anyways enough of Asian moms, all mothers regardless of where you come from and where you are, understand you gave life to all of us. We know the sacrifices you made raising us.
To all mothers,
Please enjoy your special day on May 12!
Remember to make sure to do something special and also get a thoughtful gift for your mother. Here are a few Mother’s Day gift ideas I found online that were hot picks for 2024 that might be appreciated by MOM’s.
Here are some ideas:
Or something else: Mother’s Day Gifts, Mother’s Day T-Shirts
Happy Mother’s Day MOM!
~Mr. Coffee
P.S Dear Mr. Whiskey,
I hope your family is doing good, please wish your mom a Happy Mother’s Day.
Let’s catch up when I come back from my travels.